I invited my law partner and spouse, Raymond Bolourtchi to be a guest on the show to talk about immigration. As I was about to press "record," we decided to spontaneously change the topic - to why it is difficult to work with your spouse.
Buckle up....
Ok, Karen
"Ok, Karen." We all know what it means - more or less. But have you ever wondered WHY it is so easy to identify and label the behavior that qualifies? The answer might surprise you.
Are You Too Polite?
Politeness is highly valued in American culture, and for generations, children have been taught to be polite at all costs. What happens, though, when research reveals a direct connection between politeness and sexual assault? This episode will make you question our cultural priorities, and the ways we instill fundamental values.
CAUTION: This episode discusses sexual assault, and the culturally accepted communication practices that can leave individuals, particularly women and girls, vulnerable to being victimized.
Riptide
A few years ago, I got a scary but necessary lesson about the ways we contribute to our own suffering, and what to do about it. I hope it helps you as much as it helped me this week. Listen in.
I Hated Running... Until
I hated running my whole life. I was really bad at it. It was hard. So, like any rational person, I avoided it at all costs. Then, a year ago, I decided to try it again. The strangest thing happened.
A Heart to Serve
In the midst of a crisis, a private citizen forms a non-profit that has served over 1500 meals in its first 3 weeks. An elected official chooses to hop on a plane to the Ritz in Cancun.
Having a duty to serve doesn't mean you will, and an absence of one doesn't mean you won't. In fact, the title has nothing to do with it. Listen in to this week's episode of Boldly Stated to find out what makes the difference.... and why we should care.
Fork Over Love
If you have ever had an idea- but didn't pursue it because you didn't know how to make it happen- you MUST hear this story. Tracey Selingo, founder of Fork Over Love, shares how her idea to support restaurants struggling in the pandemic and feed the hungry in her community has resulted in 1100 meals being served just 6 weeks after organizing- and they are just beginning. This is a story about the power each of us has to make a difference, and the true power of love.
Listen in, and help if you can.
www.forkoverlove.org
Winning at All Costs
My grandpa used to say "it doesn't matter if you win or lose, it's how you play the game." And I was like, "um, nope. Winning matters. Otherwise, what is the point of playing?"
Listen in for an inspiring perspective on winning at all costs, and losing with grace.
Deanna Dikeman, Capturing the Moments that Matter
Deanna Dikeman started taking pictures of her parents' waving goodbye from their driveway in Iowa in 1991. What started as simply "a picture" has turned into a body of deeply impactful work that gently encourages us to capture the moments that matter. Deanna's photos have been showcased by Eren Orbey in the New Yorker magazine, and will be the subject of her upcoming book "Leaving and Waving." Our conversation is honest, insightful, and a beautiful wake up call.
Listen in.
Failing Doesn't Make You a Failure
The fear of being a failure can be paralyzing - maddeningly so. This week's episode might just be the thing you need to to hear to put things in a new perspective. Listen in.
They Said I Killed Jesus
A must listen episode about taking a stand and choosing a side when you don’t want to do either.
Season 2, Episode 4: Why I Work With Dogs That Bite- Josef Scherer, Top Dog
Josef Scherer is not your typical dog trainer. He specializes in working with aggressive dogs, and he has the scars to prove it. In our conversation, Josef reveals why he risks his own safety to train dogs that bite, and shares stories that will both shock you, and fill you with gratitude.
Season 2, Episode 3: Ease Up, Buttercup
We all have high hopes for 2021... and it's tempting to go full steam ahead with setting aggressive resolutions and goals. But if 2020 taught us anything- it's how quickly our plans can be foiled in the midst of a global pandemic. In this week's episode, I share a proven trick for setting resolutions that have a real chance of succeeding - no matter what happens next.
Wouldn't that be so nice for a change?
Listen in.
Season 2, Episode 2: You are Not Alone
If you are struggling to stay positive, and maybe feeling anxious and depressed but not wanting anyone to know, you aren't alone. My student bravely started a conversation that many others have eagerly joined. Listen in.
Season 2 Episode 1: Neutral is Not Noble
A respectful conversation doesn't require you to mute yourself- quite the contrary is true. Tune in for some blunt truth about why you must speak up.
Episode 15: A Sparkly Red Catsuit
Have you ever been really desperate to be positively judged? You want to prove that you are worthy, and you are certain that will happen through recognition and approval. You are probably willing to do whatever it takes- if someone will just tell you exactly what that is. The truth is that chasing approval will not land you anywhere good. This week, I share my journey as a competitive Ballroom dancer to demonstrate exactly how I freed myself from a lifelong, toxic relationship with judgment. I hope it helps you too.
Episode 14: How (NOT) To Talk To Someone When You Disagree
Last week, I allowed a class discussion to go off the rails. I didn't mean for it to happen- but it's amazing how quickly things can deteriorate when emotions are involved. And let's be honest- right now- EMOTIONS ARE INVOLVED! In this week's episode, learn what I did wrong, and 5 steps to position yourself for a really great conversation with .... are you ready?...... someone you completely disagree with.
I know. It seems impossible. But trust me, you can do it.
Episode 13: Jill Farmer- You Were Made for Times Like These
Are you noticing that your old ways of dealing with stress and anxiety are simply NOT WORKING right now? If you feel a bit like hitting your head on a brick wall- my friend Jill Farmer is here at the perfect time. In this week's episode, Jill shares 3 proven strategies for staying steady even as the world feels increasingly chaotic - and- she assures us- we are made for times like these.
Episode 12: Tracey Selingo- The Real Power Behind Healing: YOU
I used to think that healing required "special" gifts and powers; that certain people were chosen and the rest of us were destined to be, well, basic. So imagine my shock when I learned that was a total fucking lie. In this week's episode, Tracey Selingo tells the truth about healing... and explains how you, yes you, have the power to heal yourself. Today. Right now.
Episode 11: We are Screwing This up
We are missing a chance to develop grit and resilience- and while we have time to course correct, we need to get to it.
