With one month left until college graduation, senior Samantha Bolourtchi gets real about how she's feeling. In this vulnerable and honest conversation, Sam speaks truth about her college experience interrupted by the pandemic, and the ways it has shaped her.
Unrehearsed and barely edited, this is one of my favorite conversations to date.
Why I Can't Show You Who I Truly Am (with Ray Bolourtchi)
85% of us walk around feeling, at some point or another, like we can't show the world who we truly are. For a long time, I was part of that statistic, while in complete denial about the toll it was taking.
The reason we feel the need to hide parts of ourselves, and the solution, are not what you think. Listen in as Kim and Ray get real, and talk candidly about imposter phenomenon.
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(mis)Communication with Raymond Bolourtchi
Have you ever said something clearly- and had someone react in a way that leaves you baffled and confused?
You might have wondered just HOW they could be so clueless. You wouldn't be alone. And.... it might not be a them issue at all.
In the humorous (and personal) premiere of Season 4 of Boldly Stated, Ray and I unpack miscommunication, at work and at home. Listen in, and decide if you are really as clear as you think.
The Worst Advice You Can Give a New Graduate
According to an op ed this weekend, telling new graduates to seek "passion and purpose in their work" is the "worst advice" we can give them. In 12 minutes, I attempt to shred every part of this ridiculous argument. Listen in, and decide for yourself.
Body Power- The Secret Confidence Hack
We've all had those moments when your mind goes blank under pressure. You start to panic- trying to recall what you were thinking about, or what you were going to say or do next. The harder you think about it, grasping for recollection, the worse it gets.
What if there was something you could do to regroup and calm down in that moment that didn't involve thinking at all?
Fortunately... there is. Listen in to this week's conversation with my brilliant Glowe Connective colleague Ariana Jahja, where we share proven strategies for accessing confidence and power under pressure.
Connect with Ariana:
Instagram: Ariana_Jahja
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ariana-jahja-a8412687/
Connect with Kim:
Instagram: kimbolourtchi
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-bolourtchi/
And of course... Glowe:
Instagram: gloweconnective
www.gloweconnective.com
Work Life Balance Doesn't Exist
If you believe that your life will really improve once you achieve work-life balance, you need to hear this week's Boldly Stated episode.
Whether you are running yourself in circles trying to find it, or holding it up as the ultimate goal, you need to know the truth. Work-life balance isn't a real thing. Doesn't exist. Can't be achieved. Listen in to learn why, and to learn what will bring the fulfillment you seek.
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Since I Quit Facebook
I could never have imagined what would happen when I finally quit Facebook. If only I would have known sooner.
Listen in for the true story behind what took me over the edge, and what happened next.
F*cked Up About Food
Have you ever wondered why so many people are hungry in a country that has an abundance of food, or examined your own beliefs about who deserves to be fed and who doesn't? My conversation this week with Tracey Selingo, Founder of Fork Over Love, is bound to open your eyes and hopefully, your heart.
Since its inception on January 8, 2021, Fork Over Love has recruited 64 restaurant partners, 36 host sites, and 166 volunteers who have served over 19,000 meals. At the same time they are feeding their neighbors like family, Fork Over Love has reinvested $191,480 into the local restaurant community as of February 15, 2022.
To learn more, go to www.forkoverlove.org
Let's Talk About Sex
Dr. Mark Scheperle, an Internal Medicine physician and Infectious Disease specialist, joins Kim Bolourtchi to talk about PrEP, and the life saving benefits of Pre-Exposure prevention. This 15 minute conversation is informative, sometimes shocking (wait until you hear these statistics), thought provoking, and inspiring.
Knowledge is Power. Listen in.
Show resources:
Dr. Scheperle's practice is University Club Medical.
Some PrEP Clinics in St. Louis:
Wash U
Planned Parenthood of the St. Louis Region
SSM Health's ID Clinic
A list of Providers in Missouri
PrEP providers in Missouri
Why We Can't Ignore Josh Hawley- with Ray Bolourtchi
I am not to blame for your excessive pornography and video game habits any more than I am to blame if I am the victim of a sexual assault. Josh Hawley has it all wrong, and dangerously so.
Listen in as Ray Bolourtchi and I unpack the meaning behind Hawley's call to "fight the attack on men," and why we can't ignore it.
What is Really Going On with Our Young People
Following a string of student suicides (including two at St. Louis University), several universities across the country are closing for a mental health day. It is no secret that college students are struggling like never before. I sat down with my students on Friday to find out what is really going on, and gained a better understanding of the sources of their anxiety and overwhelm.
I can really relate.
Listen in.
Assumptions
This week, we are talking about the ways assumptions contribute to relationship meltdowns, and an easy way to avoid them.
Listen in!
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Perfectionism Isn't a Positive
"I'm a perfectionist" is one of the WORST possible job interview answers you can give. Although many people still believe perfection is the ultimate standard, research has revealed that perfectionism is damaging to those who chase it, and creates a host of problems in the workplace.
Listen in to discover the top 5 things employers hear when you tell them you are a "perfectionist"- and why it is often a deal breaker.
To Overcome Paralyzing Perfection in 3 hours or less, check THIS out.
Check on Your Strong Friends
Samantha and her service dog Raven are an unlikely pair. People can't imagine why Sam needs Raven- or what Raven does for her. Sam candidly shares her own mental health struggles, and lets us know that what you see on the outside doesn't always paint an accurate picture of what is happening on the inside.
Check on your strong friends, she says
Listen in.
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Resources:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
24-hour, toll-free, confidential support for people in distress. Prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones.
1-800-273-TALK (8255)
TTY: 1-800-799-4889
suicidepreventionlifeline.org
SAMHSA's National Helpline
This Helpline provides 24-hour free and confidential treatment referral and information about mental and/or substance use disorders, prevention, and recovery in English and Spanish.
1-800-662-HELP (4357)
TTY: 1-800-487-4889
samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Text: MHFA at 741741
From Their Perspective: A Bold Conversation with Samantha, Nick and Zoe
We are supposed to be on a break between seasons of Boldly Stated. But, I couldn't pass up the chance to have this powerful conversation, and I definitely couldn't wait to share it with you. In one of my favorite episodes of all time, Sam, Nick, and Zoe share their unfiltered perspectives on navigating the "pandemic" school year as students and young adults.
Samantha is a sophomore in college, Zoe is a freshman in college, and Nick is a senior in high school (graduating tomorrow!). Oh, and in the spirit of full disclosure, Sam and Nick are my kids.
This episode is dedicated to all the students and teachers. It wasn't always pretty. But, we did it!
A Shock to the Heart
He needed a shock, it might have saved him. But it wasn't available. I can't say why. It was the perfect storm of everything going wrong. Will someone take action to make sure it doesn't happen again? The answer lies in how close it lands.
Don't Work With Your Spouse, They Said
I invited my law partner and spouse, Raymond Bolourtchi to be a guest on the show to talk about immigration. As I was about to press "record," we decided to spontaneously change the topic - to why it is difficult to work with your spouse.
Buckle up....
Ok, Karen
"Ok, Karen." We all know what it means - more or less. But have you ever wondered WHY it is so easy to identify and label the behavior that qualifies? The answer might surprise you.
Are You Too Polite?
Politeness is highly valued in American culture, and for generations, children have been taught to be polite at all costs. What happens, though, when research reveals a direct connection between politeness and sexual assault? This episode will make you question our cultural priorities, and the ways we instill fundamental values.
CAUTION: This episode discusses sexual assault, and the culturally accepted communication practices that can leave individuals, particularly women and girls, vulnerable to being victimized.
Riptide
A few years ago, I got a scary but necessary lesson about the ways we contribute to our own suffering, and what to do about it. I hope it helps you as much as it helped me this week. Listen in.
